It was close to midnight when the phone rang, and I grabbed it fast. A few days later, Dan called again and I found out things weren't fine at all. We both had first marriages that didn't work out, and we'd felt pressured into those vows. My husband and I have been married for over 35 years. Since they were so young, it was a natural question to ask. I mentioned that the Big Day was coming up pretty quickly and asked him if he was certain about the marriage. One afternoon, I called Dan to discuss some of the details. The beginning of the end took place about two weeks before their wedding. I didn't correct him, but it was something his dad and I talked about later. Then he said he doubted I had known anything about 'the whole kids' sports thing.' It's true that my husband and I didn't push our kids toward athletics, but we encouraged them to pursue the activities in which they expressed interest. Once, he made a comment that her family had always had their children in sports. When we did, I began to sense that Dan was comparing our family to hers. Dan and his fiancée were busy with that, so we didn't see much of them over the next few months. Dan's future in-laws seemed pleased about their upcoming marriage and began making formal plans for the wedding. After the engagement, I began to sense that Dan was comparing our family to hers.Īfter the engagement, things started to change.
